Sexual confidence--or lack thereof

Unlike Susan Cheever, who seems to never have had trouble meeting men, I've never been able to meet men easily in bars, restaurants or at parties. I'm not shy. I meet women all the time. Husbands of friends? Sure! I can talk to them without blinking an eye. But when it comes to making eye contact with and smiling at a man I find attractive and haven't been introduced to, I can't do it. But I'm on a mission. On the street, at work, while traveling: I'm practicing smiling at random men. So far, it hasn't been a humiliating experience. It's actually been kind of nice. Too bad I didn't figure this out 20 years ago but better late than never. Gotta revel in my late bloomerness.